Some people just say, “Geez, I just had a wedding!” Others choose to tell stories, some to their friends, some to their family, and one to me. I have a feeling in this case that the latter is true, because if they hadn’t said it to me, I would have probably laughed. The point is that this is a really big deal for most people.
It is. It’s the most important day of the year for most people. The marriage of two people is the most significant event in their lives. You don’t have to know what you’re marrying to know that it is a big deal. For those of us who live in the US, the only thing that really matters is the bride and groom and the ceremony that goes along with it. Not for those of us that are abroad.
It is for us that we don’t really care what the ceremony is, its only the couple that really matters. For us, it is the most important day of the year, the first day of the rest of their life together. It’s the day they choose to say “I do” to their lives. It’s the day they commit to themselves, to each other, to their partners and their families.
Now its the day all of those things matter, that you’re a couple. You need to say “I do” to everything. You need to say “I do” to each other, to the people that love you, to the people that love you. You need to say “I do” to the people that love you.
For most couples, this is the day they decide that it’s all or nothing. The day they commit to each other, they commit to their families, to each other. Now that’s important. Now that’s a day that really can mean something. And that’s because the other person’s importance to them is so apparent. They have to know that their actions matter to their other. They need to know that if you don’t say I do to everything, you can’t do anything.
This is a sentiment that people seem to have a hard time wrapping their heads around. We’re all guilty of this at one time or another. I get it though. You don’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. You don’t want to be the one that’s breaking up your relationship. But you do want to make sure that both parties are happy.
That is a difficult one to answer. If one person gets hurt, someone else may get hurt too. That’s true even for the ones that are your closest friends. That is why it is important to get it right. If you have to give up on something, you can move on. But if you have to give up on someone, you have to know that that is it. You can’t just go back to your girlfriend and ask to make other arrangements.
The issue is not necessarily what people do, but what they do for you. If you don’t take care of that, you could find yourself in trouble. If you don’t take care of yourself, you could end up hurt and out of money. Its that simple. This is why marriage and getting married is very difficult.
Now, I know that not everyone wants to change or get married. But what if you really don’t want to change or get married? What if you dont want to have kids? What if you don’t want to take care of your health and your finances? What I am really saying is that it’s not about what someone wants. It’s about what you want. When you go about it in a certain way, you are making a choice. You are making a choice.
Marriage is a choice. If you really dont want to be married, then that is your choice. But it is not a choice that you have to make. You could decide to not get married and have a great life, and be happy but you would still be choosing to get married. It just happens not to be your choice.